If you show up to my house unannounced there is a 99.9% chance that you would encounter un-flushed pee in my toilet and an unimaginable amount of fingerprints on my windows.

Yes, unfortunately, my children constantly forget to flush the toilet and they seem to have a special gift for touching our windows over and over again. It’s something I am continually rolling my eyes at, huffing and sighing under my breath, wishing these little monsters would get with the program. It is an everyday battle I seem to be losing.

You Will Miss It When They Are Gone….Maybe???

I know, I know! I hear it all the time…..you will miss it when they are gone. You will miss the never ending mess of legos and the waking up in the middle of the night and them needing you at all moments of the day….. Because it means they are grown up and gone. And there is a part of me that slightly agrees with it but I am not convinced I have to let these things happen just because I will miss it one day.

Do I really need to smile at the pee in the toilet or can I train my children to flush the toilet AND put down the lid while I am at it!!

Am I really supposed to buy a special picture frame to put around the black sharpie mural drawn on my wall or can I teach my children we take care of things!

And can I just show my kids the value and satisfaction of hard work instead of always picking up their messes and toys!

I don’t know, do I sound CRAZY??!!!!

Can I Have Expectations and Miss Them Too?

Look, I get it. I am pretty well past the baby stage and I do find myself from time to time saying out loud I miss the midnight feedings (it was the one peaceful, quiet time in my day) and those cute, chubby legs that stayed exactly where I left them! Yes I admit I can say I miss that time BUT i really don’t have any desire to go back to that (otherwise I would have like 15+ Kids!!!).

I guess it is a little of both. I know I will miss many things; especially the seasons that will never happen again. But I am also set on having some healthy expectations of how those seasons will go. I will miss and expect more.

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Cascia was born and raised in the Arizona heat. While receiving her Pre-Med degree at HIU in California, a blonde, surfing, skateboarding boy stole her heart. In 2004, she married Chuck and had many adventures living in Arizona, California and Colorado. They now call Simi Valley home and have three wild and curious children - Becker (10), Bodie (7) and Lyla (6). She has been blessed to be a teacher, summer camp staff/program director, SAHM and now the owner of Ventura County Mom Collective. Playing guitar, writing songs, and reading any and every parenting book helps keep her sane and happy! A good cup of coffee or a bubbly La Croix can usually be found in her hand! She tries to live by the motto "I'd rather recover from failure than live with regret.


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