I miss my friends! I miss going out together. I miss laughing over funny stories, shenanigans that our kids have done throughout the years, sharing our heartache and struggles in marriage or parenting!
I miss just being me! The fun me! Not the disciplinarian…not the parent…not the wife…just me!
What Happened Friends
As time has passed and the days draw into years, I miss making my friends a priority. It’s not intentional! Not by any means! We are busy women! We have careers that consume our lives, we have husbands that we support and love, we have kids that fill our daily lives, but we also have friends. What happened to spending time with my friends?
Friends that I so want to do life with, but sometimes lose track of how much time has passed. You see I try to be the one that always reaches out, but sometimes, well life happens! What happened to spending time with my friends?
A Little Face Time
As I previously mentioned, we are complex women with busy schedules, busy lives and sometimes we are just tired! Do you feel me ladies? I have the best intentions to reach out to all my friends, but sometimes at the end of a long day, I am just tired!
Do you ever feel that way? Do you feel a weariness come over you, that you just can’t lift yourself off the couch, no matter how much you would like to see your friend? Ok, so I know there’s a phone, but how many of us use it to “call”? It seems like it’s always, I’ll just send a quick message through text. Which is great, don’t get me wrong, I love a great text from a friend, but it is hard to connect through text, well at least for me.
Nothing compares to the one on one face time of sharing our thoughts and struggles together face to face!
The Questions Have Changed
And I know it gets blamed for everything, but sometimes, our circumstances and surroundings get in the way. These past months, well let’s face it, maybe even years, have changed how we do life with each other. No longer is it, are you free to meet up?
Instead, I find myself asking.. Are you healthy? Is your family healthy? Or maybe for some of us…How do you feel about meeting up in person? Can we even meet up somewhere? Can we even go inside a restaurant to sit down together? Can we have coffee together? What is the current status of the world around us? It is starting to feel more challenging to do life together when a lot of us have become used to doing life inside our homes, rather than with each other.
We keep to ourselves, almost afraid to do life with others.
Embrace Being the One
And if I’m honest, sometimes, I am just tired of always being the aggressor! Are you the one that is always reaching out to your friends? The initiator? The one always checking in with everyone? Maybe you’re the one that is the coordinator? The organizer? Do you ever just get tired of being the one to set everything up? Do you find yourself wishing to be on the receiving end for once? Could someone just reach out to check on me? Ask me for coffee or dinner one time?
With these thoughts roaming around in our heads, we get locked into ourselves and miss out on the opportunity to connect for some much needed friend time. Some of us just have a gift for planning…For reaching out to others…For coordinating amongst friends. Embrace it, don’t deny it!
Call Me…Maybe
I always hoped that as I got older that life would get easier, but unfortunately that is not always the case. Life is hard and we need our friends as we navigate life. Making and keeping friends isn’t easy! Let’s not let excuses or life get in the way of our precious friendships! So if we are friends and you haven’t heard from me…will you call me…sometime…maybe?
I want to be your friend!
