I often get asked how I do it. How I’m a stay-at-home mom. How I manage 24/7. How do I get enough stimulation?
Truth be told, for my family, we did not want a stranger raising our children. They’d spend 8-10 hours a day at daycare and we wouldn’t know what was said to our little one. We want to instill our values and beliefs in them at a young age. When I’m home with them I get to do this. Of course, we have routines, learning time, and free play too! As a family we also knew if I worked half my paycheck would be for daycare. It really saves us a ton of money! No one will ever see the true daily life of a stay at home mom. Unless you’ve gone down that road before. For everyone, this looks different.
There is no wrong or right way to be a stay-at-home parent. There is also nothing wrong with choosing to go to work. I admire women who work and come home to work more. We see you!
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I often get asked if I get bored being home with my children as I’m not getting adult stimulation. Honestly, as if all adults are intellectually stimulating. Remind yourself why you choose this path and sparks will light again. People often look down at stay at home moms, but we have the hardest and the most important job. As a stay-at-home mom, it is important to make sure to carve time for yourself. I make time in my busy schedule to read, watch documentaries, and exercise. I constantly research childhood ideology and educate myself as much as I can. Child development is something important to me. As a stay-at-home mom, I still have passions, dreams and aspire to have my own daycare one day. Right now I choose to put a pause on myself and focus on my kids. I am fortunate enough to have the opportunity to stay-home as the cost of living rises.
For those of you who have backlash for being a stay at home parent, remember your why. Also remember you never have to prove yourself or justify your parenting methods to anyone.
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Maybe it is my calling .
Maybe I want more time with my children.
Maybe I enjoy creating my own schedule and routine.
Maybe I’m passionate about teaching them.
Maybe I’m just a mom.
If you’re a new mom or a returning mom and on the fence trust your instinct. Being a stay-at-home mom is not for everyone. What I’ve learned is that routine early on is crucial. I have a 1-year-old and a 2-year-old that are on the same schedule. I love “Taking Cara Babies” and she gives lots of sample routines that helped me the most.
Our Routine Sample:
7 am- Wake & free play
8 am- Breakfast
8:30 am- Dress
8:45 am- Outing (outside play or a scheduled outing)
10 am- snack- (if home) have a scheduled art or free color activity
11 am- Lunch
12 pm-2 pm: Nap
2:30 pm- Snack- Quiet time and book reading
2:45-3:45 pm-Outside time/ second activity
4 pm- Start dinner and involve the kids
5 pm- Eat
5:45 pm- Family walk
6:30 pm- Bath & PJ time
No matter if you’re a stay-at-home mom or a working mom. You are a mom. Be kind to yourself and love yourself. As mothers, we have the hardest job. Find your village that supports you and your vision.